Many can attest to this, but growing up in a culturally, very traditional family (Haitian descent to be exact), can mean one of many things – do not cut your hair. Many people view hair as a special significance to a woman’s beauty…etc.
No wonder it never caught my attention to ever cut my hair unless I was cutting my ends. Lately, the thrill that boils within me when I see a woman take the initiative and courage to transition from what they were so familiar with, to do the BIG CHOP, has blown my mind. What captivated me most and reckoned my deepest interest was seeing those same women embrace their beauty indefinitely, without the additional essentials.
Honestly, I have been asked numerous times on many different occasions, “Wid, when are you going natural?” or, “Wid, you should get a nice pixie cut?”…etc. And my answer has always been the same, “Not now, not ever! It’s just not for me.” As time went by, I’ve been itching to try something new, different, outside of my comfort zone and a little edgy. So of course, I began to explore, research, and consider the thing I’ve repeatedly said to myself I would not do – and that is to cut the little hair that I’ve been trying to grow for years, lol. (And I mean yeaaarrrsss).
And I must say, I feel FREE, unrestricted to the norms, exhilarated that I stepped out and tried something outside of my shell.
So, I challenge you – women of all nationalities, ethnicity, background, who are accustomed to a certain type of style in order to play it safe, to do something new, not too extreme, but a bit dramatic that even shocks YOU. And it doesn’t have to be cutting your hair, it could be something simple from changing your wardrobe to something more eccentric, or rocking a bright color lipstick, to trying a different restaurant… anything that challenges you to step out of what you’re used to doing.
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I had the most exhilarating feeling when I was asked to be a panelist for GEM’s (God Empowers Me) first event. It felt like yesterday when I wondered aloud, wrote in my journal about having speaking engagements, panelist…etc. with opportunities to share my story. God blew my mind away when he presented me with my first opportunity. But the thought of speaking in front of people terrified me. Dry mouth, sweaty hands, breathlessness and trembling, those were just a few symptoms to describe my state of mind and place, as the days drew closer and closer to the event.
I’d go back and forth in my head, asking myself, what do I have to share? In the midst of entertaining such thoughts, God interrupted me and said, “Never underestimate your story!” Hearing those words encouraged me and it took me back to a place of God, myself, and I. It was as if God was saying to me, “Widny, don’t forget the tears you’ve cried, the heartbreak you’ve experienced, the disappointments and shame in the midst of a confused season in your life. I came through for you; in a rushing wind to comfort you, heal you and grow you for such a time as this.”
I am thankful for my best-friend, Yariana, who is a Spirit-led woman and responded to the assignment God had given her. God, Empowers, Me,(G.E.M) was a vision and dream God gave her three years ago, and of course, with God-dreams there come trials and tribulation…but as she persevered and trusted in God to overcome her challenges, something deeper was able to birth through her. On October 7th, 2017 there was a taste of the beginning of something new. I am thankful for all of our friends who came together to support the dream and be a helping hand and be vessels to be an answer to someone’s prayer.
I say all this to say, ‘God is willing to use anyone with an open heart.’ Too many people are counting on you and I to be obedient and to say YES to the assignment God has for us. Saying yes to God is seeing someone else gets healed, delivered, strengthened and knowing Christ.
Be sure to check out some of the most amazing, talented, anointed individuals who have invested their time and talent, and made it their mission to put this event together. If you are looking for people to do business and collaborate with you, look no further. Be sure to click on the names below for more info.
Founder of G.E.M (God, Empowers, Me)
Administrative Assistant and supporter
I love meeting new people, especially like-minded people who share the same interest and passion as me. Social media can be a positive outlet to network, connect, and build healthy relationships that inspire, uplift, and embolden one to make a decision to be a positive beacon of light on a social platform. It’s true – you’ll reap what you sow. In other words, if you sow love rather than hate, words of life rather than death, build rather than tear down, you’ll reap a harvest of attracting the same people, especially on any social media platform.
Takeia and I have never met in person, but I have this rushing feeling that we’d been formally introduced somewhere in this crazy world that needs a lot of love, and it just so happened to be on Twitter. I had the utmost privilege and honor of interviewing her and sharing how God has been using her to reach women of all ages, backgrounds, and stories that would rock one’s heart if we needed to hear. Check out this interview!
1. Can you tell our readers about yourself and your blog?
Hello beautiful souls, I’m Takeia Cage, and I reside in Minnesota. I’m an advocate, mompreneur, and motivational blogger. My blog was inspired by my own self-love + healing journey. This blog was created to be a safe space, which encourages women/men to share their truth with others while being unashamed in their journeys. I also wanted my readers to understand that it’s okay to be a work in process and that while you’re going through a hard season, it’s okay to share your journey with others because you don’t know who you might help who are going through the same thing, or something similar.
- What inspired you to take a leap of faith to start your business and blog? And when did you know that starting something, at that point in your life, was the right time for you?
What inspired me to take the leap of faith and create my blog + business was when I felt as though there weren’t enough women support groups that were actually genuine + open to other women being themselves without judgment, and wanted to create a community where women can come to feel supported, uplifted and celebrated the way they should be. I’ve always pictured this amazing sisterhood of beautiful women, from all different walks of life, and that was something I wanted to be a part of. So I decided to create my own, and it’s been amazing creating a safe space for women to do just that. I’ve always known I had a calling in life, and that was to be an advocate for the women in my community + other communities. I remember praying about wanting to take the next steps in bringing my dreams + vision to light, and I went to sleep and ended up waking up at like 4 o’clock in the morning with God giving me confirmation that it was time. I’m just so blessed to be able to share this experience with a lot of amazing women and watch them share their experience with other women as we all help one another. To be honest, I remember telling myself you can’t help other people because you’re still rediscovering yourself as well, and at that very moment that’s when I knew this was what God wanted me to do, and I decided I was just going to take that leap of faith and share my rediscovery journey with other women in the hope that we can all do this together, instead of alone.
- I normally tell myself, “The beginning of something is the toughest, but when you persevere and press on, the journey becomes sweeter.” What was the beginning stage like for you when starting your business AND how is it for you now that you’ve continued on this journey?
In the beginning, I didn’t know what to expect, but I knew there was a job that needed to be done! I didn’t have a manual on how to run a business, so I did make a few minor mistakes along the way, but I acknowledged those mistakes, and kept it moving because God is intentional and he will always make a way for you! Business is definitely amazing right now. I just started another business, #UnashamedBloggers, a little over a month ago, and I’m really excited about this new journey that’s filled with women bloggers.
- Explain the importance of prioritizing your schedule, and creating a healthy routine to start your day. What are some of the things you do that work for you and would suggest to others, especially mothers?
I honestly believe that it’s super important that you PRIORITIZE + set boundaries in your life! I can’t stress this enough, when things are in order in your life, it doesn’t leave room for clutterness + the stress of being overwhelmed, especially when you’re running a business. There are days when I feel all over the place, and that only happens when I don’t prioritize my schedule. There are often times you get so used to always being on the go, and you don’t give yourself the break you need, and you’ll eventually begin to experience burnouts. A few healthy things that work for me are: I pray throughout the day, read my daily devotions, listen to gospel music or any type of music that puts me in a really good mood, journaling and always making sure I dedicate 30 minutes each day doing some type of self-care activity (reading a book, taking a bubble bath, watching TV, taking a walk etc). I would definitely suggest that if you’re a mother; know that it is OKAY to take a mental + physical break from your child/ren. If you have people in your life who are supportive, they’ll keep your child while you get YOU together, and this can be for a few hours, enjoying your own company, doing the things YOU love doing, alone!
- How has being a mommy impacted you in any way in pursuing your dreams and goals? (Talk about the challenges you’ve faced and the blessings wrapped around it.)
Being a mother was probably one of the biggest accomplishments in life. My children are my world, and they inspire me each and everyday to chase my dreams, and to be that example that you can achieve ANYTHING you set your mind to! The only struggles I face are not always being there for the little things, and it makes me really sad at times, but they know that I’m doing this for them, and US! The blessing is being able to get to a point in my life where my children can always be with me, and we are all able to see this beautiful world we live in, together.
- You had your first women’s event. (If you have videos or pictures of the event, please send them to me.) Share the testimonies and challenges you faced while planning your event. Talk about the ups, downs and the ugly.
My first women’s event was nothing short of amazing! I was really nervous, and afraid that it wasn’t going to go as I planned it to go! For one, I’m not a public speaker, and this was my very first event! I thought about canceling it so many times, but I would talk to God, and ask him for strength + guidance. The days leading up to the event I got so many emails from different women saying that they can’t wait to meet me, and how I’ve inspired them in so many ways, and at that moment I couldn’t help but feel amazing on the inside. I didn’t know that the things I’m doing in this world are inspiring other women all around, and it just felt/feels so good. The day of the event was really stressful because the people I had in charge of setting up were late, and I felt as though everything was rushed, and I hate rushing! But me and my event planner got everything squared away and the turnout was beautiful. I just think that when you’re doing an event, make sure you have people who are really going to come through to be a part of your team.
- How can people who would like to collaborate or connect with you get in contact with you, and know more about your business and blog? (Share your blog, any other social media, and email.)
If you would love to collaborate with me, please email me at UnashamedQueens@gmail.com
You can also follow me:
- Twitter: TakeiaCage + UnashamedQueens
- Instagram: Takeia.Cage, UnashamedQueens, and UnashamedBloggers
- Blog: MyVicariousLifeBlog.Com
- Website: UnashamedQueens.Com