THE TRUTH ABOUT BEING SINGLE WHILE IN QUARANTINE
As I become more transparent about my private life (I use wisdom whenever I do share), there is a sense of peace that reassures me to open up a little bit more. Sharing the broken parts of me that God has mended over time is essential for me to talk about because someone needs to hear and be able to connect with me, or you for that matter, about the battles we've fought and overcome mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically. Having said this, let's dive right into part one of this topic: the truth about being single while in quarantine.
The reality of quarantine/social distancing as a single woman. Am I struggling?
Have you ever been in an ongoing cycle that you believe you won't ever get out of? Have you ever asked yourself, "Why do I keep attracting the same things/people I need to detox from? Are you struggling during this quarantine to be celibate? Why is it more accessible to mask the pain rather than properly healing from it? If you said yes to any of the above questions, then proceed reading.
During this time of a global pandemic, where our nation and countries are on lockdown and government officials have enforced self-distancing and quarantine, for a lot of single women who's said yes to the above questions would find self-isolation to be a dark room because it would require her to do heart surgery and access the areas that aren't whole.
Yes, the purpose of us quarantining and social distancing is to prevent COVID-19 from spreading. In the same manner, the reality of this time of being indoors is facing the actuality of our inner self, the habitual habits that lead so many of us to make poor decisions. A lot of my sisters may find this to be a trying time, especially for my singles. I believe many women can relate in some way because they have either experienced it or perhaps are currently undergoing it.
This time of isolation could be a period of great growth or great struggle.
I think it takes a mature woman to admit she's not ready to be involved with a man, and with that, her actions follow. Unfortunately, too many times, we can find ourselves in countless compromising situations because what we initially said did not align with our behavior, actions, and mindset. I can recall many times in the past ten years my yearning to be loved by an imperfect man rather than allowing the constant love of God to consume every part of me, even the parts of me that were distasteful and flawed. I'd awakened love before my time. Because of that, I queried in confusion while questioning my worth and value as a woman.
I say all this to say, do not let a moment, or should I say, your time of quarantining to be wasted on awakening love before your time just to fill a void that can only be consumed by a constant loving God. This time of isolation can be one of great growth, not struggle.
The importance of accountability and applying practical tips:
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"Being single in quarantine can be a challenge if you allow it to be. Some tips and suggestions I would give single women while in quarantine is to be plugged in: plugged into the Source (God), and accountability partners/friends. When you are plugged into the right things and the Source, you don't need to get power from any other place (including guys that you probably shouldn't be texting)." Yariana Abreu
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"It's easy to sit in wanted or unwanted feelings when you don't have much to do. So stay active! Give yourself structure daily by setting goals daily and weekly. Active for me includes physical activity coupled with mental activity. There is a level of accountability with yourself when you have defined days." Renee White
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"Now more than ever, this is the time when women across the world need to pray and tend to their Father's business. Ruth (the story of Ruth is found in the bible) was minding her business when Boaz divinely noticed her. Watch God make your business His business when you prioritize the kingdom." Syleena Powell
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"Take this time to self-reflect and work on yourself. Focus on how you can become a better version of yourself. Be intentional. Dig deep. Put in the work." Adrianna A Smith
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"Grow in love with you again!
Being in quarantine is not the time for single women to let their guards down or to throw their standards away. It's a great time to reevaluate what your standards are. Be intentional about spending time with yourself; date day, self-care day, journaling, create an 'after quarantined' vision board, try out a new recipe, learn to bake cookies from scratch, paint, or write a song unto the Lord. These activities will help you face your truest self (strengths, weakness, vulnerable areas) & relearn your worth in the Lord, which will, in turn, help you be content with God's will for your life, not waiting to be found." Natasha M Porch
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xoxo,
Widster
