"29 LIFE LESSONS LEARNED THAT SHIFTED MY LIFE."
8/13/2020
Sooooo, I celebrated my 29th birthday last week Sunday.
I can't believe the decade of my twenties is almost at an end. Every year, I'd jokingly said that I am getting old, (literally), but only this time it feels real. Shortly before my birthday, I was talking with different people about life, God, purpose, family, friendships, and the L's I took on over the years, my love life became the highlighted topic in mystery. The ongoing questions I've received days before my birthday were, "Why are you still single? When are you getting married? Are you dating?" As I've expressed in my lovely IG caption the other day, I found myself in a funk all day. Being bombarded with questions that spiraled through my thoughts, I honestly ended up not doing anything on my birthday because I'd allowed what "society" dictates- that “a woman should be married with kids at a certain age” get the best of me. BUT! I thank God for praying friends and loving family members who surrounded me on that day and encouraged me.
Although I was down on Sunday, your girl got back up with praise in her belly on Monday.
"...Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning."
Psalm 30:5
On this beautiful day, I've decided to write. Today, I want to share the lessons that I've learned from pivotal moments and experiences that challenged every single insecurity, pride, hurt, lack of discipline, fear, and rebellious heart that once engulfed me. These are lessons that inspired me to grow up and soar higher to allow me to reach for a more positive and Godly perceptive; as well as taking the painful experiences that ushered me into experiencing God not just as my Father, but as everything I needed Him to be in any given situation. Maybe some of the life lessons listed below resonate with you in some or many other ways. However, know that WE ALL went through something to come out better, wiser, stronger, as well as fueled with clarity and knowledge of our purpose.
So in honor of 29 years, I'm sharing the 29 most important Life Lessons that I've learned along the way:
When you forgive others for the damage they've caused, be sure to also extend the same grace to yourself for tolerating it.
Become the friend you want to have in your corner. If you're not a good friend to others, expect a harvest of what you're sowing.
If you have to step outside of God's Will to attain it, don't blame God for not blessing it.
SAVE money, budget, and invest!
Being driven by your emotions is physically and spiritually draining. And to be honest, people are turned off by it and do not want to be around an emotionally unstable person, (I'm just saying).
Work on your credit score, and understand the importance and benefits of having good credit as well as make a concise decision to rebuild from where you are, (I'm finally in the 700's!! Yayy).
Be open to the NEW that God is doing in your life. God is always up to something BIG, especially in places that seem dry and desolate. But we can easily miss out on the new things when our minds are wrapped up in our limited way of thinking about how things should be. Instead, be open and anticipate with stirred faith that God tailors every blessing.
Being busy is not the same as being productive. Have a routine that works best for you and stick to it as you see fit. I've realized that I'm more productive in the mornings than I am in the afternoon, so I take advantage of waking up early and create a to-do list- instead of piling up my plate with things to do with no strategy and action behind it.
Do not awaken love before it is time. You will find yourself in an entanglement, unequally yoked and depleted.
When someone shows you who they are without being asked, BELIEVE THEM! In addition, we must believe that person without the misconception of having the ability to change who they are.
Take care of your health. Self-care is also taking heed of your physical being too. By that, I mean taking the necessary steps to keep yourself healthy by maintaining and staying up to date with regular check-ups and taking vitamins.
Other people's opinions about you hold no weight if you choose not to believe it and live by it.
Prayer should never be your last resort— it is your first, and it is your most potent weapon on the battlefield.
Trust God in the process!
You'll learn so much about yourself when you take the time to inhale, exhale, and breathe. Release what's not helping you grow, and reach forward for what will.
Don't be fooled by people who appear to have it all together on social media- they usually don't. Some people only post what they want others to see. So comparing your life to those on social media will keep you imprisoned, depressed, and "pretending" that you're OK when the reality is that you're in shambles. Log off, and take the time to deal with the root issue.
Don't allow the spirit of hate, envy, jealousy to be rooted in your heart.
Complementing, supporting, cheering, uplifting, praying for, encouraging, or even congratulating another woman doesn't take anything away from you or what God has placed in you. It sets you up for MORE!
Give your pain hell by choosing to heal. Take time to recover. It's better to heal properly than to pretend that you are OK. Too often, because of the emotional/physical breaking point that we can experience, feel, and think about, we live to be comfortable with it or avoid it by placing a bandage on a deep wound that needs and should be treated regularly.
It's OK to go to therapy. Mental health matters!
You don't have to know it all, and that's OK. Have an open mind in order to learn, understand, develop, and experience each day.
When a prophetic word is released over your life, do not only receive it- RUN with it and get to work. Faith without works is dead!
Don't stop working on the assignment until you've finished it. God cannot get glory from what He's called you to do until you've complete it.
Sex outside of marriage brings unnecessary warfare. Mike Todd says it best; "There's no condom for a broken heart", and to be quite frank, there is no condom for soul ties and the damage left behind.
Being petty to avoid confrontation and undealt rooted insecurities is a heart issue that steeps through your immaturity.
Exercise regularly and eat healthier.
If you feel the need to copy someone else's craft shows, you lack the discipline to sit before God and allow Him to reveal the craft you're graced for!
Embrace every season, and cherish every moment. What you experience and learn today will be needed for tomorrow.
PACE YOURSELF! Slow down—don’t rush into things by running ahead of God’s timing.
I'd like to hear some of the lessons you've learned over the years. :)
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